"Musings and Ramblings of A Convoluted Mind"

{December 15, 2009}   Lily White?

“To Thine Own Self Be True.”

– Shakespeare (Hamlet)

I was talking with a friend the other day and she told me she had to tell a “white lie” to her husband.  She said if was for his own good, because the truth about something would have hurt him.  It isn’t my business to discuss the nature of that lie, but I will touch on this subject in general.

So is it okay to tell a small lie to a person if it is to protect them?  Like, you found out their friend was talking about them behind their back but you deny that knowledge?  Or maybe you broke something that someone treasured and then decide to cover it up?  Is there such a thing as a protective lie or are the all damaging in the end?

Sure, we all do it occasionally.  We all hide things.  That’s simply human nature and really, there is no way around it.  People are secretive.  We like privacy.  But if it is intentional, doesn’t that make it worse?  We hide things around the holidays because we don’t want people to know what we get them for a present.  But where do you draw the line of a white lie to a blatant lie?  What about a lie of omission?  Simply ignoring something or leaving out information to save our own butts?   In my experience, the truth always comes out and when it does…. that’s just a shit storm you don’t want to get involved in.

So are we only lying to ourselves when we pretend it is okay to lie to protect someone?


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